SUFFERING IN SILENCE OFTEN MASQUERADES AS LONELINESS
4 December 2018
Rev. Matthew Brooks Dodson
THE IMAGINEWS REPORT (WICHITA)
Definition of suffering in silence:
“to suffer or be unhappy without saying anything”
I will go one step further: We don’t like personal interaction because we would then have to expose our personal flaws and imperfections to others, but, hiding behind a social construct allows us to project an image that is, all too often, false, imaginary and grandiose.
When I was in Seminary, I became almost obsessed with the very real social issue of “Suffering In Silence”. Psycho-social studies have shown that the prevalence of suffering in silence increases in direct proportion to “social” media involvement via computer platforms.
It seems, in our current society, that people are more willing to engage in social interaction via texting, email and social media platforms than engaging in personal, face-to-face interaction…in other words, engaging “in real life”…and it’s not just younger people, either.
Suffering in silence is also statistically high in, of all places, nursing homes. Most elderly people don’t want to “bother” other people with their aches, pains and problems, so many nursing home residents stay withdrawn their rooms and suffer, physically, socially and emotionally. Dying of a “broken heart” is not uncommon in nursing homes.
Please remember that holidays are very stressful times for all types of people: single parents, unmarried folks, kids from broken homes and, of course, our elderly folks, whether living alone or in a care home.
Please take time to reach out to people this time of year (indeed, ALL year long): the possibility is very real that your outreach will be the only personal, human contact many people will experience that day-or week.
©2018, Matthew Brooks Dodson, The Imaginews Report™
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